As I get older, I’m learning that peace often begins with decisiveness.
I say that as a reformed procrastinator—someone who used to think that delaying decisions somehow kept me safe. I even used to joke about it at comedy shows:
“I’m a procrastinator. Do you know what they say about procrastinators?
We are the decision-makers of tomorrow!”
It always got a laugh—but the truth was far from funny. My delays caused more problems than they solved. The peace I longed for was often hiding behind decisions I was too afraid to make. Today’s molehills quickly became tomorrow’s mountains.
I saw this in the church too; I came from a body of believers that believed in “sober reflection” that everything must be saturated in prayer, and there were occasions where decisions were needlessly not taken under the excuse of “Take it to the Lord in prayer”.
I am not saying to not pray over things, but if God is moving in an obvious direction, then why are you trying to bolt the doors he is obviously opening in his time?
There’s wisdom in being patient, but there’s danger in perpetual hesitation. James 1:8 reminds us, “A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.” Sometimes peace requires us to stop wavering and simply decide—trusting that God will guide our steps once we start walking.
I’ve learned the importance of having the right support circle—people who both challenge and encourage me. Not everyone who starts with you is meant to finish with you. Over time, I’ve had to gently let go of relationships that no longer aligned with God’s direction for my life. It wasn’t easy, but pruning is part of growth.
Jesus said in John 15:2, “Every branch that does bear fruit He prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.” Sometimes, the pruning hurts today—but it brings peace tomorrow.
If today’s pain brings tomorrow’s peace, you are worth it.
If choosing boundaries brings long-term mental and spiritual health, do it. Sometimes we have to unplug and choose silence, we have to be still and reconnect with what is important – God!
David wrote in the Psalms:
““Be still, and know that I am God.
I will be exalted among the nations,
I will be exalted in the earth!”” Psalm 46:1 (ESV)
You’re not alone in this journey. If you’re part of my circle—my tribe—know this: I’d rather listen to your struggles and love you through your storm than stand at your funeral wishing you had chosen peace earlier.
So, love one another deeply. Be kind to yourself. Choose peace—decisively, courageously, and consistently.
“Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace.” — Colossians 3:15
Make thine own application.
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